FOCUS ON WHAT AND HOW NOT WHY

Baca:

"Show me your ways, O LORD, teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long." Psalm 25:4-5 NIV

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Bacaan tahunan:

Thoughts for the Day


This week we have looked at some things to do when a loved one has a life-controlling problem. We can't fix our loved ones' problems, but we can help them by confronting them in love, helping them tear down their wall of defenses, brick by brick, until they are able to see themselves as they really are. Only then will they be able to move ahead toward recovery.

An important element of effective caring confrontation is to focus on what and how, not on why. The why question only serves to raise people's defenses and makes it more difficult to penetrate their state of delusion. Instead, talk about observable behaviors that can be described by such words as what, how, when or where.

Why may break the communication because it questions motive. Yes, their motives may be wrong, but their delusion can best be penetrated by presenting the facts in a non-threatening way.



Consider This . . .

Remember that God is with both you and your loved one. Ask him to show you what to do, to teach you wisdom, and to guide youin this journey. He loves you both and with him, all things are possible.

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